How To Pick Yourself Back Up When Life’s Got You Down
We’ve all been through something that’s taken a bit of a toll on us. For me it was a breakup a few years ago. For others it’s more serious things like health issues, death of loved ones or depression.
No matter how hard life can get we always have a choice when it comes to starring it in the face. Are you going to let it get the best of you, or are you going to pick yourself back up and push through as best you can?
I’m really excited to share this weeks video with you where I interview country singer/songwriter Elyse Saunders who just released her new single ‘Rise’. The story behind this song is so inspirational that I couldn’t resist sharing it with you.
Wanna know a secret? The day I decided to leave my job I was an absolute wreck. Despite how sure I was about the decision, I still couldn’t hold myself together. The whole thing felt very surreal.
I had been working as a TV Producer for 10 years. I knew how to do my job like the back of my hand, was super comfortable in the routine, and got to attend cool parties and meet celebrities. Who in their right mind would give that up?!
I knew there was something else out there for me. Something that required a big part of who I am that I didn’t get to utilize that much in the position I was in. But let me tell you. Despite how sure I was in the decision, it still terrified the crap out of me! I was starting over in a lot of ways and had no idea what my life was going to look like. I still don’t really know, but all I can say is I haven’t regretted it for a single moment.
I could have easily let fear hold me back from making that leap. It would have been much easier to stay in my usual, comfortable routine. In this weeks video I share exactly how I made the choice to leave regardless how scary everything felt.
A couple weeks ago I had what you can call a social media nightmare! It made me realize how much we really turn to social media for the truth about things, when in fact most of the time we’re only getting a small portion of something much bigger.
I know people who scroll through other peoples social feeds and compare their life to it, which only leaves them feeling more empty inside. Others worry about judgement, while some spend hours creeping someone’s profile trying to find answers to something. Before they know it they’ve gone down this rabbit hole ending up on someone else’s profile they don’t even know!
It’s a whole other world that we on some level believe to be reality, but a lot of the time we’re left filling in the blanks with our own stories not even realizing it! These stories usually aren’t pleasant and leave us with really uncomfortable feelings.
My social media story has to do with my Instagram. Check out this weeks video to find out what happened!
How to Deal With the Backseat Drivers in Your Life
Backseat drivers are part of the Life Map language. They are people in your life that you have allowed to control you in some way. Notice how I said YOU’VE allowed to control YOU.
Think about when you’re driving and you have someone in the backseat telling you how to drive or which way to go. You still have control of the wheel, but sometimes that other voice in your ear makes you question your own skills and abilities. So sometimes you choose to listen to them instead of your own inner GPS.
Recognizing who the backseat drivers are in your life will help you set boundaries and remain authentic to who you are and what you want. We can learn the greatest lessons from our backseat drivers if we’re open to learning about ourselves through the challenges they present us with. We can uncover many unhealthy patterns in our life by taking a look at how our backseat drivers have influenced us. Once we understand the lessons in these encounters we can take that information into the present and alter how we communicate and hold onto our power.
In this weeks video I share a couple tools that will help with your anger and frustration when you’re face to face with a backseat driver.
Wanna know one of life’s biggest game changers? I make a conscious effort everyday to do more of this one thing, and it has created such joy for myself and others around me. It’s something so simple, yet I see so many people not doing it!
Joy is what feeds a positive mindset. Without creating joy in your life, it’s much more difficult to remain in high spirits. Joy is also contagious. When you’re able to live with a joyful heart it shows other people how they can do the same.
Engaging with people around us is a big part of what can bring us joy. However, with all the distractions in life like cell phones and busy schedules, we forget to create space for those moments that can bring us joy. A lot of the time they’re right in front of us, but can be gone in a flash if we’re not paying attention.
In this weeks video I want to remind you how one simple act can not only shift your day to a much happier place, but also those around you. Give it a try and see how different you feel!
I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with crying. It feels so good to let it all out, but when it shows up when we don’t really want it to we can end up feeling a lot of shame and embarrassment around it.
This type of vulnerability makes many of us feel weak. I’m always fighting against this stigma because the way I see it is it takes a lot of strength to be willing to express emotion, or own it when it happens.
Last week I released a video where I got emotional. It didn’t stop me from putting it out there but I did have to get out of my own head a little bit and put aside my fear of what other people might think.
Since releasing the video and receiving an overwhelming positive response, it became more clear why I knew I wanted to share that video. I’ve come to realize that sharing my journey isn’t about me. It’s about others. I think that’s why I’m able to be ok with my vulnerability. I see it more as a service than anything else.
It’s amazing that when you can own who you are and how you feel, how much you give permission to others to do the same.
I’m excited to share this weeks video with you where I dive more into why its important to allow yourself to feel.
Meditation has always been one of my biggest challenges. I could never justify just sitting in silence without thinking. I also never really understood the value of it, and just assumed I didn’t really need it.
The last couple of months something has been slowly shifting in me. I wasn’t exactly sure what was happening, but when I had a client mention she was going to be doing the Oprah & Deepak 21-Day Meditation Experience, I decided to jump onboard as well.
I’ve been on a really interesting journey the last few months and during this weeks video I ended up releasing something that has been blocking me for a really long time. I had some hesitation around if I should publicly post this as it’s extremely raw and vulnerable, but I believe part of my purpose is to share my journey as well as helping others discover theirs.
It’s really just about being human, owning who you are and learning how to stand in your power, but the only way you can do that is by releasing all the heavy layers getting in your way – and it takes work!
One of the biggest lessons I’ve been learning big time this past year is how to not be so hard on myself. I tend to be a big dreamer, but what I’ve discovered comes along with that, is a whole whack-load of stress and anxiety – which is obviously no fun at all!
By being a big dreamer I’ve put huge expectations on myself, and when I don’t feel I’m getting close to where I want to be anxiety kicks in big time! I’ve learned the actual term for this type of anxiousness is called high functioning anxiety and what I find triggers it is fear. Fear of not getting to where I want to be, fear of not being good enough, fear of being seen as a failure.
I used to wake up every morning with a pit in my stomach. Worried about how I wasn’t going to see the results I wanted.
The thing with me is I don’t have any problem taking action. I’m not afraid of putting myself out there and seeing what happens. However, the downside is when you feel you’ve done everything you can but you still aren’t seeing the results you want. That’s when the anxiety tends to consume me the most.
It’s taken me a long time to figure out how to get to a place where I feel more at ease, but I’m finally getting there. Sometimes I still have setbacks but I’m much closer to being at peace with myself than I ever have been before.
I’m hoping what I’ve learned throughout this journey can also help you anytime you feel fear and anxiety creep into your life.
I had a dream job most people would kill for. Working as a T.V Producer at one of the top networks in Canada, I got to go to fancy events, interview celebrities and hangout on red carpets. Part of me wonders if I’m a little crazy for leaving that job, but at the end of the day deep down something just didn’t feel quite right. I did that job for almost 10 years, and to be honest, it took me a long time to admit that the job just didn’t fulfill me. I always felt like something was missing. There was some disconnect between me and the type of work I was doing. I just didn’t know what else to do with my life and every time I would try and figure it out I just become more and more frustrated because nothing really seemed to excite me.
Figuring out my dream job and doing what I’m super passionate about didn’t just happen overnight. It was a loooong journey, and one that had me in tears A LOT!
In today’s video I share how I figured out what my passion truly is, and tips that might help you discover yours!
Yup – it’s Monday. You know what the worst thing is in my opinion about Monday? It ruins Sunday! There were so many times I sulked around on Sunday’s dreading what was about to happen the next day – the start of a whole new week. A week filled with early mornings, deadlines, conflicts, and certain energy draining co-workers. I mean, who actually likes Monday’s when you put it that way?!
Well, my Monday bashing days are over! Mainly because I’m now an entrepreneur so Monday’s don’t have the same meaning anymore. However, I can still totally relate to that feeling of dread. I’ve been working at busting through this uncomfortable feeling and I’ve actually found a way that works really well! I have a good feeling it will also help with your Monday blues!
A common theme I hear quite often from people is they lack clarity in their life. Whether it’s to do with their job or in their relationships.
I’ve discovered a few reasons why people struggle so much with this.
For one, people don’t take time to really reflect on their life and think about what they really want in the first place. Deep down they don’t believe they’ll ever discover what it is they truly want so they don’t really bother trying to even figure it out. It’s also challenging for many people to wrap their head around the concept that life is a journey. These days people want answers and they want them now. We don’t have patience with ourselves to venture down that self discovery road. It seems easier just to live each day out – but are you really living if you aren’t truly happy? Is it too much work that you would rather just settle?
There’s also a lot of fear and limiting beliefs that get in the way. If you don’t feel its even possible, then you’re right – it isn’t. But what if it is? You never know unless you open yourself up to the possibilities.
The Life Map is a program that really helps give people clarity about their lives by understanding how their past has shaped them and what fears and limiting beliefs are blocking them for seeing what it really is that they want in life.
Recently I hosted a retreat in Costa Rica where I had the opportunity to take a group of women through the Life Map Program. It was amazing to see the transformations that took place and how they released so many roadblocks!
Check out this weeks video to hear how the Life Map has helped guide these ladies forward.
Life is funny sometimes. I actually catch myself laughing out loud at times when I’m able to witness how seamlessly things fall into place. When I’m able to see clearly how certain things are meant to come together. Lately, I’ve been chuckling at how the first retreat I co-hosted actually became a reality.
About a year ago I received a message on Instagram from a girl I had never met. Her name is Sarah, and she lives on a farm in Costa Rica. She reached out saying she really wanted to host a retreat and was looking for the perfect co-host. I felt so honoured that I had made the cut! After a couple Skype calls we both had a really good feeling about working together and decided to move forward with the planning.
Over the past year we worked at getting all the pieces in place. There were some people I know who were skeptical about us pulling this off, and I’m not going to lie – sometimes I felt that way to. The whole ‘who am I to do something like this’ complex kept creeping in. But when you have a partner to help keep you motivated and accountable it helps!
When we got our first booking that’s when everything started to feel real. The panic we felt was also very real because now we had to make sure we could get enough ladies to come! Luckily everything flowed into place and I truly believe it’s because this retreat was definitely meant to happen.
The bonds that were made, the transformations that took place, and the adventures we embarked on created an unforgettable experience.
Without knowing it, these ladies also gave me a gift. Without them I wouldn’t have known what I’m truly capable of. I wouldn’t have discovered my full potential and realize there’s a leader inside of me that’s been squirming to get out. I want to thank each one of them for their amazing energy and being so open to letting me teach them my Life Map program.
I’m super excited to share the video I created of The Soul Adventure Retreat 2017! I know this is just the beginning of something truly amazing, and I can’t wait to announce the next adventure!
This weeks video is a tough one for me to share. In fact, part of me kinda wants to throw up a little bit knowing anyone can watch it. I decided to open up and be super vulnerable about a couple major disappointments that have happened lately. I wanted to talk about them because I know at the end of the day we’ve all been there. And it’s important to know we’re not alone! I did this video in one take, with no rehearsal or editing cuts. I just wanted it to be as real as possible. It’s not perfect, but what is perfect anyways?
I’ve learned A LOT the past few months by going through some really challenging experiences. I can honestly say it is true that you grow the most from the hardest times in life…and man, I feel like I’ve grown 10 more inches lately!
If you can relate to this video I would LOVE to hear from you. It’s important we stick together through these times. It honestly helps so much when you have awesome passengers by your side!
I’ve been wrestling a lot lately with who I am vs. what I do. Ever since leaving my full time job and stepping into a new role, I’ve wondered if who I once was is still a part of who I am.
I’ve had numerous jobs in my life, and once I reached a point where I felt I had a ‘career’, that became my identity. One of the first questions people typically ask you is “what do you do?”. As if what I do is going to give them some giant clue as to who I am as a human.
I find it so fascinating how people react to this question based on how they define themselves by their job. Some people are proud of what they do, while others hold a lot of shame around their job. They sometimes even feel the need to justify why they have a particular job.
In this weeks video I want to help you see you’re so much more than what you do for a living. Check it out.
A few weeks ago I found myself in a situation where it was hard for me to keep my cool. I feel a little ashamed about the whole thing, but I definitely learned something from it!
I took a dance class at a new studio and the girl behind me kept coming up to me asking if I could move forward while giving me a slight physical nudge. She was really nice about it, and what she was asking made sense, as she didn’t have much space. But for some reason this really got under my skin!
While I responded with a smile and did as she instructed, on the inside all I wanted to do was give her the stink eye and tell her I’m giving her as much room as I can, as the instructor was right in front of me.
As I danced my way through the class I was having a hard time focusing because I was trying to figure out why this bothered me so much!
I ended up realizing quite a few things and I really wanted to share them with you in this weeks video. I hope this helps any time you feel your blood start to boil!
It’s been such a rewarding experience as a Coach to see how the Life Map has helped shift the perspective of others. Helping people own their story and release any shame around who they are has been a huge part of the Life Map process.
I’m really excited to share singer-songwriter Brittany Brodie’s story about her journey towards building self-love with the Life Map tool.
She calls the experience “magical” and can’t wait to frame her map and put it in her office!
The “aha moments she had in creating her map has made her completely change how she views her life.
Part of the Life Map language such as “listening to your GPS” and “backseat drivers” has also become a huge part in her everyday vocabulary!
I hope you enjoy listening to her story as much as I enjoyed talking with her about it!
How many times have you picked up your phone with the urge to text your ex? I’m not alone in this, right?
Maybe it’s because you feel lonely, you’re curious what they’re up to or you feel they should know about the amazing things going on in your life!
Most of the time when we actually press send in that moment it’s followed with feelings of pure anxiety. It’s because you’ve now opened the gates to the unknown. It’s out of your hands now and you’re left constantly checking your phone for a reply and feel tortured with every minute that goes by without a peep.
So before you press that send button I want you to ask yourself a couple of really important questions. They will help bring you clarity as to whether or not it’s a good idea to reach out to them.
These questions also work with any decision in life you’re looking to make. I literally ask myself these two questions ALL THE TIME!
Check out this weeks video to find out what they are!
I’ve had the privilege of taking quite a few people through the Life Map process, and I have to say I LOVE going on this journey with them!
Everyone has such a unique story. It’s so interesting to see how their past has really shaped who they are and where it’s led them.
I’ve discovered that overall this tool really helps people develop their core confidence. It uncovers your limiting beliefs so that you can conquer your fears and become your best self. It’s a way to make you fall in love with yourself and accept who you really are.
Today I really wanted to share my friend Jeremy’s experience with the Life Map. He opens up about how this process has really helped him and how it’s something he will always carry with him.
I’m counting down the days until I get to hop on a plane to Costa Rica and join a group of AMAZING ladies!
From March 5th – 11th I’ll be co-hosting a women’s retreat that’s so much more than just a vacation. It will be an opportunity to escape, get grounded, and reconnect with yourself.
I know for me life is full of to-do lists and running from one thing to the next. It’s rare any of us have time to just stop and think about what it is we truly want. It’s important to step away and take time to gain clarity around your life and goals. Where are you headed? Where is it you really want to go? And what do you need to work through to make it a reality?
I also know when I’m in a warm place, surrounded by nature and able to relax, I become more inspired. That’s why we decided to have this retreat in Costa Rica!
We want to create an environment that will give you the perfect balance of relaxation, adventure and connection with others on a similar journey.
I’ve worked at retreats before and the energy that comes from these is something I’ve never experienced. I can’t even explain it. It’s something you really need to experience for yourself!
Check out this weeks video for more information about the retreat and how to reserve your spot today! We’re also currently offering an early bird discount of $200 off until the end of the month!
Before thinking about what goals you want to achieve in 2017, it’s important to reflect back on this past year. Ask yourself what worked, what didn’t work, and what you’re proud of. You will find it really beneficial to give yourself a baseline to work from before setting new goals for the year to come.
When I think back on this past year I’ve come up with what I call the 3 c’s. For me this year has been about connecting, creating and consciously evolving.
If you could pick a few words to sum up your year what would they be and why?
Maybe you’ll start to notice themes or patterns around how this year has unfolded for you.
In this weeks video I encourage you to take a trip down memory lane. I also share how I’ve gotten myself to a place where I’m able to consistently make each year bigger and better. There’s no reason why you can’t do the same!
Do the holidays look a little different for you this year? I know for me it does. My sister usually hosts Christmas at her place but this year they’re taking a family trip to the Bahamas. I know, totally not fair!
With my other sister at her in-laws that just leaves my mom and I. So this year we decided we’re going to spend it with our extended family. Something we haven’t done since I was a little girl still writing letters to Santa.
It’s definitely going to feel a bit different and I’ll miss the rest of my family, but I’m excited because I also think it will be a lot of fun!
I know for many people it can be challenging to accept change on the most magical day of the year. However, I’m here to tell you that despite your kids creating new traditions of their own, spending it at the in-laws or traveling somewhere else, it’s still entirely possible to make December 25th feel as special as always. Just keep these tips in mind!
I met dancers Kim Gingras and Mel Mah 7 years ago when they auditioned for ‘So You Think You Can Dance Canada.” As a TV Producer I had the pleasure of interviewing them backstage after they wowed Canada with their amazing moves.
I’m in such awe of these ladies and what they have accomplished since the show.
Kim and Mel became best friends during the show. Right after ‘So You Think You Can Dance Canada’, they took a giant leap and moved to L.A. Both of them were on a mission to become full-time professional dancers. Kim had a dream of one day dancing for Beyonce and Mel had her sights set on working with Janet Jackson.
Their motivation and persistence paid off and they both accomplished their big goal!
In my interview with these ladies they share the ups and downs of their journey, how they pushed through and how anyone can achieve their goals with the right mindset.
They’ve learned so much from their experiences that they decided it’s time to now help others. So they created an empowerment workshop called ‘You Got This, Girl’ that is dedicated to educating and inspiring young females.
There is so much goodness in this interview and I’m so excited for you to watch!
I’ve worked with many people when it comes to setting and achieving goals and I’ve learned it’s not as easy as ABC. There are so many factors when it comes to goal setting. A lot of them we don’t tend to be aware of.
As we get closer to the New Year and start setting new resolutions, it’s important to keep these tips in mind.
When we first think of goal setting we typically look at the big picture and then figure out the smaller action steps we need to take to get there. It’s not as simple as that. Even knowing your “why” or your intention may not always be enough.
The real reason you may not be achieving your goals is because you didn’t do enough work around initially setting the goal in the first place. If you truly want to make changes in your life, the first action step you need to take is doing work around your limiting beliefs. Those unconscious beliefs easily creep into our ability to reach our goals.
Check out this weeks video to learn more about how to go after what you really want in life.
This past year I’ve learned a really big lesson when it comes to getting people to notice me.
For about 9 years I became quite quiet and really comfortable doing the same thing day after day. At the same time I also felt frustrated because nothing was changing in my life. Now I realize how small I was keeping myself. I was afraid to take more initiative or risks because I was afraid I would fail. I just assumed people knew what I was good at and when the time was right opportunities would just come my way.
Let me tell you – that kind of thinking rarely gets you anywhere! If you want more out of life and people to notice you, you have to find ways to create opportunities for yourself.
It’s important to realize Prince Charming isn’t just going to fall from the sky, or that job isn’t just going to magically appear in front of you. You need to take action and put yourself out there!
We’re all striving to reach our full potential. Why else would we beat ourselves up, not feel we’re good enough, or keep wondering what else is out there? I think where most of us get stuck is not knowing what the next step is. Or that the next step is a risky one.
Our fears get in the way a lot. The thoughts that enter our mind when we think about taking a risk, tend to revolve around the worst case scenario. These thoughts keep us from making any big changes in our life.
It’s funny because even when we try to pump ourselves up, we tend to ask ourselves “what’s the worst that can happen?” At the end of the day we’re still coming from a really negative place.
As I was heading to teach one of my fitness classes last week, I saw something that hit me hard. I came across a massive ad plastered all over the walls in one of the subway stations. It had a giant tag line that will really change the way you look at your life! Apparently you can learn a thing or two from advertisements!
If you truly want to start living up to your full potential, start using the question I’m about to share with you in this weeks video.
For many people it can be challenging to comfort someone going through a tough time. It’s common for a lot of people to shy away from emotional situations because they feel awkward or uncomfortable. A lot of the time they don’t know what to say, worry about doing the wrong thing or they want to fix it but don’t know how.
A few weeks ago I went through a rough time. Within the span of 5 days a relationship ended, I got sick and a friend of mine passed away in a car accident. It’s been awhile since I’ve felt that drained emotionally, mentally and physically and craved real emotional support.
It’s not always easy being vulnerable and talking about the hard things you’re going through and how you’re feeling. However, I also started to realize how difficult it can be for others on the receiving end of it.
As human beings we’re really good at psyching ourselves out. We’re so good at making up stories. Stories we actually start to believe without any real proof.
I recently spent a couple months in New York. When I was first thinking about going I started to actually freak myself out a bit. I started picturing myself there and even though it felt exciting, I was also working myself into a bit of a tizzy! Thinking about how to navigate my way through a new city, meet new people and attend events where I didn’t know anyone all of a sudden made me question if going was such a great idea.
I knew in my gut it was something I had to do and I’m so glad I did! I met such amazing people, had unforgettable experiences and I grew in a way I never imagined. It was a perfect reminder that things are never as scary as we anticipate them to be.
As you watch this weeks video I want you to start thinking of times in your life when you went ahead and did something outside your comfort zone regardless of how freaked out you felt.
I have to confess – I love exploring judgment and where it comes from. This has always been something I’ve analyzed in my life. Even from a really young age.
Over the past year I’ve gotten really deep with it and have come up with different philosophies as to why exactly we judge others. I’m actually really pumped to share this with you!
Every single one of us is guilty for judging someone and we’ve all had people judge us. We’re human and it’s natural. The key is to catch yourself when you’re making a judgment and really ask yourself where it’s coming from.
Having a deeper understanding of where judgment stems from will also make it easier to dismiss what other people think. This allows us to focus on our own lives with more ease.
Watch this weeks video to discover the 5 different judgment blocks.
I guarantee we’ve all been down a one-way street at some point in our lives – likely more than once. Even if you aren’t currently on one, it’s important to recognize when they start to appear in your life.
One-way streets are part of the Life Map language I’ve created. It means you’re heading somewhere that feels like your only option, and closing yourself off to other ideas and possibilities.
A lot of the time we do this without even realizing it. This is mainly based on us getting caught up in society’s belief systems.
Society has taught us how to behave, how we should look, and how we’re supposed to live our life. Go to school, get a job, get married, have kids yadda, yadda, yadda!
While I do believe some of these beliefs are starting to shift as more and more people challenge them, for many of us these beliefs can be tough to break. It’s not until we take a close look at them that we start to see and understand how they may be holding us back and not serving us in the way we originally thought.
As you look at your life ask yourself what decisions you’ve made or are currently making based on society’s belief systems.
Maybe you went to College or University because it seemed like the “right” thing to do, but deep down didn’t feel quite right. Or maybe you got married or you’re in a relationship with someone despite your inner GPS (intuition) telling you otherwise.
Check out this weeks video to help you see the one-way streets you may be headed down!
A coincidence or a message from the universe? This is something I’ve been questioning for the past month while I’ve been here in NYC.
I’ve been here for almost 2 months now and there have been some really interesting events that have taken place. The synchronicities are so out there that I can’t help but wonder if they have a deeper meaning than just being coincidences.
These experiences have really forced me to take a step back and be really present to the opportunities that are presenting themselves.
In this weeks video I’m looking forward to sharing these stories with you, hearing your thoughts and if you’ve had something happen in your life that’s also made you question if there’s something more powerful at play.
It’s funny how one little event can completely change your perspective. This happened to me recently in NYC. I had been in New York for over a month and I still hadn’t made it to Times Square during this particular trip. Wanting to feel more like a local than a tourist, I suppose I had been unconsciously avoiding the mayhem.
However, I was close by one day and wanted to feel the crazy energy of midtown. Of course there were thousands of people milling about and you had to strategically plan every step you took. At one point I was at a cross walk waiting for the light to change when this man backed up right into me!
I’m sure we’ve all experienced times when someone wasn’t looking where they were going and ran right into you. It’s so easy to get super irritated, and that’s exactly the reaction I had. I totally rolled my eyes and under my breath whispered “seriously?”
Then a split second later this bus was turning the corner and ended up coming up on part of the sidewalk – right where that man was standing! I soon realized if he hasn’t backed up into me in that moment he would have been taken out by that bus!
This moment in Times Square is when I started to really shift my perspective on how I view other people – whether it’s people I know or strangers on the street.
Watch this weeks video to learn how you can also move past the frustrating actions of others.
I’m really excited to continue sharing more of the Life Map concept and it’s lingo with you!
The idea behind the Life Map is to really help you understand your journey up until now, to own your story and discover how certain people, events and experiences have helped shape who you are. It will also clear any roadblocks that are currently in your way so you can start achieving those goals you set out for yourself.
There’s specific language that will give you a deeper look into who you really are and the different experiences you’ve had in your life. For example, you’ll be able to recognize when you’ve shifted gears, or when you hit a fork in the road. You will know exactly what’s in your roadside assistance kit, and be able to pinpoint the navigators in your life. Having all this insight from your past will help guide you forward into a life filled with more meaning, purpose and fulfillment.
Today I want to talk about how to refill your tank! Just like how your car needs to be filled with gas – so do you!
We’ve all had times when we’ve felt low. Maybe it has to do with a relationship, a job or just an overall feeling of not being fulfilled.
When you’re in that place it can be really challenging to pull yourself out of it. What really helps is being aware of what it takes to fill you back up. It’s rare we think about this in times of feeling low but it’s a good practice to start getting into so we can pull ourselves out of it faster!
Check out this weeks video to help you discover how you can start refilling your tank today!
The past few months have felt like a massive roller coaster ride. Sometimes I want to scream and get off the ride ASAP and sometimes I want to throw my hands up in the air with delight and giggle my way through the entire ride.
Life is hard. Life is messy. It’s also beautiful and amazing.
When we feel stressed and overwhelmed it’s hard to always see the beauty in it.
My mind has been feeling very scattered lately. I’ve been struggling to stay focused because I’m overwhelmed with so many different ideas, tasks, and opportunities. On top of that I also can’t help but feel a lot of doubt and fear about the future.
I knew something was really wrong when I went to film some new videos a couple weeks ago and I couldn’t even string a sentence together! That’s when I knew I had to take a time out. I decided to spend some time in Central Park where I ended up creating a system to help shed what I call thought layers. This really helped to ground me and allowed me to become clear on what’s truly important.
I’m really excited to share this technique with you in this weeks video as it changed things dramatically for me.
The morning is a crucial time to fit in some healthy habits because they will help set the tone for the rest of the day.
Accomplishing something and getting yourself in a good mindset before even getting to work helps keep the productivity wheel spinning. Once you’re on that train you’re motivated to keep going because it feels so good!
Your brain is also the most alert in the morning and there tends to be fewer distractions. As your day continues, more tasks usually pop up that requires you to prioritize differently than you normally would need to first thing in the morning.
In this weeks video I share 5 healthy morning habits you can start implementing into your daily routine to make you feel more energized and pumped for the day ahead.
Who we are in life is based on a number of significant factors. It’s a combination of our values, beliefs, experiences, and people we’ve met along the way.
A big part of the Life Map program I’ve created is the language. I’ve chosen specific metaphors based around going on a road trip, a.k.a your life journey. Phrases such as shifting gears, hitting a fork in the road and know when to refill your tank, help give clarity around a situation you might be going through.
Today I want to talk about the Navigators in your life.
The Navigators in your life are people who have helped guide you down a certain road. Maybe they taught you something that changed the way you see or do something. Or maybe they gave you an opportunity in life that helped guide you in a different direction that changed your life for the better.
I’ve had some major Navigators in my life lately. I’ve met quite a few people who have helped open doors for me or shared information that changed how I do things.
Check out this weeks video to better understand who the Navigators are in your life!
I never used to be a morning person. I was that person who hit the snooze button over and over again. Sometimes to the point where it would shut off completely and I would almost be late for work!
However, things have shifted for me quite a bit this past year. Becoming an entrepreneur requires me to work from home a lot, and I found I wasn’t starting my day off right.
I was waking up and rolling right from my bed onto my couch and laptop. I was feeling sluggish and needed something to get my body and mind moving. So I decided to start going to 7am yoga – which is not an easy shift for someone who isn’t a morning person!
When I first decided to do this I felt the need to do it everyday to get in the habit of making this routine stick. I was putting a lot of pressure on myself to go 5 days a week and I felt if I didn’t do this I would be failing.
In this weeks video I share how I managed to get myself up early and into a routine I feel good about!
This past year has been all about throwing myself 100% into building a life and business I love. Let’s call it #theyearofsharon2.0! The only problem was I realized I wasn’t really sharing the full story of who I am and creating a business that reached the deepest part of my core. At the end of the day I’m a small town girl from Muskoka who loves adventure, dreaming big and helping others do the same.
I had a huge epiphany this past spring and realized it was time to own my story and create something that will help people own theirs. I’ve developed a coaching concept called your Life Map. Every time I talk about it I can’t help but smile and I’m so excited to share this new vision with you!
The Life Map is a tool designed to help you move forward towards a new destination, to help get you unstuck and build your self-awareness so you can make choices that feel good. Its purpose is to bring you clarity on how you’ve ended up on the road you’re currently on, and how previous experiences, events and people have shaped your belief system, values and self worth. The key is to uncover how certain patterns and choices have taken you off course and how certain passengers and backseat drivers have played a huge role in guiding or distracting you from your purpose. I’ve also created specific programs that will allow you to create your very own Life Map! Think of it as going on a road trip with me as your guide!
It’s hard enough starting at a new job. Add in trying to fit in and make new friends and the transition feels ten times more nerve racking! It’s hard to be the new person, and can feel really lonely.
I remember when I switched to a different high school in grade 12 and had to make friends with people who already had their group of friends. I had no clue how to approach new people because everyone I knew before, I had grown up with and there was a level of safety there. At this new school I was all alone and felt very lost. To the point where I ate lunch alone in a bathroom stall! Teenage years are fun aren’t they? 😉
As we get older we may find different ways to cope, or we don’t care what people think as much. However, our insecurities will still sneak up on us at times and that’s ok! You’re not alone. If you’re starting at a new job or a new school and are feeling a bit uneasy and nervous about meeting people, check out this weeks video to help ease your mind and get you over the hump.
Getting up in front of a crowd and giving a presentation can be one of the most terrifying feelings ever! According to a survey, people fear public speaking more than death! Sometimes it can’t be avoided though, especially if its part of your job. In this weeks video I want to give you some tips that have helped me overcome the anxiety I feel when I have to get up in front of a group.
I know how intimidating it can feel to be at an event or a party and not know anyone. It’s easy to feel awkward, or out of place and can be really challenging to start a conversation with someone you don’t know, especially if you’re more of an introvert. I have been in this situation so many times and I sometimes still need to give myself a bit of a pep talk before entering new territory!
It’s normal to feel a little anxious in this situation, but it’s important you don’t avoid these outings out of pure fear because it’s just going to make it harder the next time. The more you do something the more confident you become. That goes for anything – even meeting new people. Once you get in the groove of it you’ll notice a huge change in your confidence. It just takes a bit of time to work up to it.
Check out this weeks video to find out what’s worked for me when it comes to meeting new people and see if you can start working these tips into your own social life.
I find it fascinating how certain people can get under our skin and irritate us beyond belief. I find it even more interesting how other people may not be phased at all by the exact same thing!
Some people have the ability to trigger us in unusual ways and it’s so easy to judge them based on how we interpret their actions and behaviour. There are always clues behind why certain things bother us. To be able to understand it more clearly and let it go, you have to take a step back and really ask yourself why that particular thing is bothering you so much. Many of us don’t think to ask ourselves this question and continue on feeling more annoyed than we need to.
I believe it’s important to start challenging yourself next time you feel annoyed by someone. You might come across some fascinating discoveries!
I’ve always struggled with people cancelling on me. It would drive me nuts! I felt like people didn’t respect my time, or I didn’t matter enough to them and I became really frustrated and felt defeated.
This is a terrible mindset to be in. Not only am I feeling sorry for myself, but I’m also not taking into consideration how the other person feels or what they might be going through that’s causing them to cancel in the first place.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up and lost in our own thoughts and assumptions and fall into victim mentality where woe is me.
To live a more fulfilling life it’s important you find ways that will help pull you out of this negative thinking trap. It requires you to retrain your brain a bit but once you get into the habit of it, you will feel so much more free!
Check out this weeks video to see how I’ve been able to shift my mindset about an issue that has been one of my biggest pet peeves my entire life!
Ever since I was a little girl I’ve wanted to live in NYC. I wrote about it in my journal and day dreamed about it constantly. I wanted to attend Juilliard so badly I even had them mail me an info package so I could try and plan out how exactly I was going to make it happen. Let’s just say between the tuition costs and my acting background it didn’t quite happen.
My dream may not have happened exactly how I envisioned it, but I’m really excited to say that I just booked a ticket to NYC without knowing exactly when I’m coming back. The timing couldn’t be more perfect right now and everything flowed into place with such ease. That’s when you know it’s right.
I’ve been trying to focus more on allowing things to flow in my life instead of forcing them. Forcing something to happen never feels good, and it usually never turns out how you envisioned it. This week I take a look at different times in my life that felt forced vs. when it just flowed.
Is there something in your life you’re trying to force right now? Ask yourself how well that’s working for ya.
Ever since I was a kid I’ve been known to be quite determined. When I have my mind set on something there’s no looking back. I throw everything I have into making it happen. Some might call it stubborn, but I believe if it feels right and I’m not hurting myself or anyone else, it’s considered determination.
As many benefits as there are to having a determined mindset, there is one thing I’ve always struggled with – patience! The lack of patience I have tends to produce a lot of anxiety. I have such a vision of where I want to be, but I struggle with the patience to get there. I tend to want it all, and want it now!
Becoming an entrepreneur has really tested my patience, and I realized I needed to create a system that will help me stay more present and enjoy the process. In this weeks video I share a simple strategy that has helped me chill out… a lot! It can also help YOU in many other areas of life, such as boosting motivation or confidence.
I have a confession to make. I really, really don’t like to feel like I’m ever wasting time and I like to be as productive as possible so at the end of the day I have more downtime for myself. I created the ‘Coupling Method’ which allows you to strategically plan ahead and feel extra productive. Who doesn’t love that feeling when you feel on top of the world after accomplishing everything on your to-do list? Check out this weeks video to see how you can incorporate the ‘Coupling Method’ into your life!
A couple of weeks ago I held an event called #summerofme, where I guided people through how to have their most incredible summer ever! I find many of us tend to do the same activities every year, which doesn’t allow us to grow, step outside our comfort zone and learn new things. I encourage you to make a point of thinking about how summer 2016 can be different from the rest. How can you transform these next few months into something you will be talking about for years to come? Check out this weeks video for a few easy tips on how to up your summertime fun!
So here’s the thing…I find it really interesting how busy everyone is in the world these days. I find a lot of the time when you ask someone how they are, their response is typically “ah, busy” with this sigh that either seems like they’re overwhelmed or just over life.
What’s even worse, is a text message where you can’t hear any tone at all, and it makes you feel like you don’t even want to respond because you feel they’re too busy to talk to you.
I’ll admit, I’m guilty of this too! But are we really as busy as we think we are? Maybe we have it all wrong! I challenge you after watching this weeks video to ask yourself if you really want to keep this word in your vocabulary.
When you make an effort to live a positive, fulfilling life it can feel frustrating when those around you don’t seem to share the same sentiment. Some people struggle to see the glass half full, and when you’re surrounded by that type of negativity it’s hard not to let it drag you down. This week I want to share some tips on how you can maintain your positive vibes despite the negative Nelly’s in your life!
It can be easy to fall into a bit of a rut sometimes – especially when you’re doing the same thing day after day, week after week. Sometimes this can leave you feeling negative, unmotivated and bored. It’s important to not let your daily monotonous routine take a toll on your level of happiness, positivity and fulfillment. To keep flexing your happiness muscle there are a few easy things you can do to boost your mood instantly. Check them out in this weeks video!
What is success? Everyone has a different definition of what this word means to them. I encourage you to take a minute and ask yourself what exactly it means to you.
The two biggest areas we seek success in is our career and relationships. Sometimes we find ourselves in a bit of a rut in these areas, struggling to figure out what exactly we need to do to take things to the next level. It’s important to know that success does take work but as soon as you know the steps you need to take, it makes it much easier to succeed.
There are 3 major roadblocks you need to be aware of that will help give you the breakthroughs you’re looking for. Check them out in this weeks video!
That constant battle between our head and our gut is a tough one to navigate. There are times when we’re faced with a decision and logically we know what makes sense. The only problem is it just doesn’t feel right. That feeling is your intuition and it’s trying to tell you something.
There are many times we choose to ignore this feeling because it seems risky. There’s no solid evidence telling us this is the right move to make. However, most of the time when we choose not to listen to our intuition we end up wishing we had. To help you gain more confidence in trusting your gut, check out my 3 signs you should pay close attention to in this weeks video.
Confidence is one of those topics I LOVE talking about! It’s something most of us are always striving to find more of, and even though we know what confidence means and looks like, sometimes we still struggle to implement strategies to achieve it for ourselves.
It’s important to understand that there are different levels of confidence. The first is surface level confidence. This is where you appear confident on the outside but don’t necessarily feel it on the inside. This is where the classic phrase “fake it till you make it” comes in. It’s not necessarily a bad thing because sometimes by faking it we’re allowing ourselves to learn and get more comfortable in a situation. Once you get more comfortable with something you will start to notice your confidence naturally increase.
To be truly confident in who you are from a deeper standpoint, it’s important to work on what’s called your core confidence. This takes constant work and requires you to be patient with yourself. You didn’t enter this world without confidence. Somewhere down the line it’s been stripped from you – it’s mainly due to people judging you, reacting to you in a negative way, or making assumptions about you. These hurtful experiences are now etched into your own personal blueprint without you even possibly realizing.
There is one thing you need to be aware of before you can truly start working on building your core confidence and I share just what that is in this weeks video 🙂
We can be so freaking hard on ourselves sometimes! I’m sure there’s been a time in your life when you’ve done something you regret. Maybe you wish you had said something different or reacted differently in a situation. It’s easy to beat ourselves up after the fact, but it’s really important for your own mental health that you find a way to let it go and forgive yourself.
When we hold onto mistakes we remain stuck and end up staying on this wheel of regret which feeds our fears and insecurities. It’s important to acknowledge what you learned from the experience so when you’re faced with a similar situation you know exactly how you would handle it.
The past is the past and all you can do is learn from it, let it go and allow yourself to grow. It can be the most painful experiences that really force us to make changes in our thoughts and behaviours – but without those experiences we wouldn’t have the opportunity to learn how to be the best version of ourselves.
I hope this weeks video helps to shift your perspective about regrets and allows you to let go of the past and focus on who you want to be as you move forward towards a really fulfilling life!
What do you mean? Oooh
When you nod your head yes
But you wanna say no
What do you mean? Heeey
I never thought I would quote Justin Bieber but there’s a first for everything!
I know a lot of people who have trouble spitting out the ‘N’ word. I believe many of us struggle with this because we’re people pleasers. We want to make sure everyone else is happy – even at our own expense. There is also a lot of guilt that comes up for many of us when we say no.
It’s important to learn how to stand your ground, because saying yes all the time when you wanna say no can cause you a lot of unnecessary stress! It also builds a lot of resentment towards other people when it’s really an internal issue you need to work on yourself. You shouldn’t blame other people for making you feel like you should say yes – that decision is fully on you and you need to work through why it’s so difficult for you to be honest about what you really want.
Being truthful and saying no actually shows a lot of confidence, and people will respect you more for staying true to who you are and what you want. People will likely be even more drawn to you because confidence is an attractive quality to have.
In this weeks video I give you some new perspectives to think about that will help you feel good about saying no! Check it out 🙂
When I say “How to Win an Argument” I don’t mean how you can come out on top. It’s about making it a win, win for both people!
We’ve all found ourselves in an argument at some point in our lives – whether it’s with our partner, family or friends. Fighting with someone and throwing around verbal punches rarely feels good, especially when you both walk away without resolving the situation.
A lot of the time we find ourselves getting defensive, and find it challenging to understand where the other person is coming from. We try desperately to try and get them to see things from our point of view and get super frustrated when they just “don’t seem to get it.” We sometimes end up reacting by saying or doing things we regret in the heat of the moment without really thinking about the repercussions.
Arguing stems from a place of fear but a lot of the time it’s hard for us to see what that fear really is. Plus, let’s face it – it’s hard to face the fact that we have a fear around something we view as someone else’s fault.
To truly understand what’s making you so angry, it’s important to ask yourself what exactly is causing you to feel threatened and lash out. In this weeks video I share the one major key that will help you minimize arguments, and save you a lot of time and frustration.
I’m so excited to share this weeks video with you because I had the opportunity to try something new 🙂 I had a viewer write in with a really interesting question around how to get over a breakup and I couldn’t wait to tackle it!
Relationships are definitely one of the hardest things to navigate in life and when they end, we can’t help but compare ourselves to how the other person is handling it. We want to be able to bounce back quickly and move on like nothing happened. Much easier said than done, am I right?
There are some key factors that play a huge role in how quickly you move on after a breakup and it’s really important to give yourself the right amount of time to go through them.
Click the video below to discover the one essential step you need to take to be able to fully move on after a breakup!
How much do you feel you hold back in your relationships? How willing are you to show vulnerability and open up about your fears and dreams?
It can be really tough to be vulnerable and put yourself in a position where you feel completely exposed. You’re taking a risk where you might experience pain and rejection. However, taking that risk could also result in an amazing, deeper connection with someone. Vulnerability shows courage, strength, and a deep sense of worthiness. It’s normal to feel scared when being vulnerable, but the key is to walk hand in hand with that fear and not allow it to hold us back from sharing who we really are with each other.
As C.S Lewis once said – “To love at all is to be vulnerable.”
This week I really wanted to share a story about vulnerability with you, and the powerful impact it had on me.
As I sit here on Good Friday I can’t help but think about my friends and family and how supportive they’ve all been throughout my journey to become a coach and entrepreneur.
I can be pretty hard on myself when it comes to achieving certain goals in life, and I set some pretty ridiculous expectations for myself. As I learn to let go of those expectations I’m noticing how much more free I feel to create and be inspired. Those expectations have always kept me in a box and it was hard to see beyond it. I would be so focused on achieving a certain expectation, that it became difficult to see all the other wonderful things unfolding right in front of me.
It’s also really common for us to expect things from other people. In this weeks video I’m going to share what happens when you expect things from others, why they might not be able to give it to us, and the importance of releasing it, while still staying true to yourself and what you want in life.
One of the most common things I hear from my clients is that they want to minimize stress and overwhelm in their lives. They feel they have too much on their plate and not enough time. I totally get it! As a full-time entrepreneur, a part-time fitness instructor, and working on other job opportunities here and there, I feel like my head is spinning in a million different directions. I’ve spent hours just sitting and wondering where to begin, what to prioritize, and where I want to focus my energy. At times I felt like my whole body was going to explode out of sheer frustration.
I knew I had to figure out a plan to get me more organized and feeling productive, so I set out on a mission to find some tangible tools to help me.
I now have a specific system in place and I can’t even begin to tell you how much more relaxed and productive I feel! In this weeks video I really wanted to share my strategy with you in hopes it might help you feel more on top of things. I would also love for you to share all the different ways you stay organized so we can continue to help each other grow. Please feel free to leave comments below 🙂
I get it…you just got out of a relationship and you’re missing that companionship. I totally understand that it can feel lonely and you’re looking for something…or someone to fill that void.
You might think it’s best to jump right back into the dating scene because it makes sense to move on and date other people right away – what’s the point of waiting, right? Well the problem is you could find yourself in some really toxic or even more heartbreaking situations if this person ends up being a rebound. This usually ends up being the case when you’re not ready to fully move on.
There are so many things to consider and reflect on after getting out of a relationship. In this weeks video I want to help you see and understand the steps you need to take before leaping into what may seem like the next best thing.
Over the past couple years I’ve had this really weird thing happen to me. I feel like I kinda gained a superpower! I know, I probably sound crazy but I just feel completely different!
I got struck with some type of insane energy a few years ago and started finding myself going for midnight runs, multitasking 50 things at once, becoming more social and not feeling tired by doing any of it! Instead everything I was doing was feeding my energy even more!
I’ve had countless people ask me where I get my energy from and for a long time I said I don’t know, probably from my mother. The only thing was I didn’t always feel this way. For many, many years I felt extremely tired. I just didn’t realize it because it felt normal.
In this weeks video I can’t wait to share where exactly this energy boost came from, how I’ve been able to maintain it and how you can also discover it for yourself!
Decisions, decisions, decisions! We’re faced with them every single day – some are easier to make than others, like what to have for lunch…although sometimes that decision hurts my brain far more than it should!
Many times in life we’re faced with much tougher decisions like moving, career changes, or leaving a relationship. There are times you probably feel like your head is going to explode and you recite the words “I don’t know what to do!” over and over again. Truth is, you know exactly what to do – the answer lies within you somewhere, you just need to peel back the layers to find it. In this weeks video I tell you why you’re feeling blocked and how to access the answer you’re looking for!
“I don’t know how to do this on my own…I need him/her in my life to help me!”
This can be a common thought for a lot of people who are afraid to leave a relationship because it can feel really daunting to take on so many tasks and responsibilities alone. It’s nice to feel you have someone in your corner. It’s comfortable and it feels safe. I just want to make sure it’s not one of the only reasons you’re in it. Trust me when I say you’re never alone – regardless if you have a partner or not.
In this weeks video I share my insights on how to latch onto your own independence and how liberating it can feel!
In this weeks video I want to touch on a really uncomfortable feeling that can be difficult to overcome.
It can leave us feeling sad, angry, confused, useless and exhausted. I know how challenging it can be to turn off those constant thoughts of that other person as you keep trying to piece together what exactly went wrong.
We can drive ourselves crazy thinking about what coulda, woulda and shoulda been. We want some type of answer regarding why the relationship didn’t last, but when there is a second person involved, we can’t expect to know all the reasons it didn’t work.
The best thing you can do is focus on you and find ways to move forward instead of being stuck in a place where you’re trying to fix something you don’t have complete control over.
In this video I share my #1 tip on how to take the first step in surviving heartbreak. It’s a must watch if you’re going through this right now. Also, if you know someone who might benefit from this video I encourage you to share it with them.
We can sometimes find ourselves in situations that make us feel uncomfortable, awkward or make us want to run for the hills. To help protect us in these situations we sometimes make up assumptions to make us feel better.
This one pattern we tend to be unconscious of a lot of the time, has the ability to destroy relationships and keeps us from knowing the truth. It’s something we all do, including myself, and I want us to start being more aware of it.
Discover where it shows up in your life and begin to understand why you feel the need to do it.
I know many of you have set some goals for 2016 and I want to share a special technique that I use and also teach my clients to help keep us all motivated.
It’s easy on January 1st to come up with a list of things we want to achieve or improve on. The hard part is implementing strategies to help keep us moving in the right direction. So many people have already fallen off the wagon because they didn’t think of the steps they needed to take, to reach their goals. Just know it’s never too late to pick yourself up and hop back on!
In my video this week I’m going to give you a different simple way of looking at your goal which will help you find the success you’re looking for!
The need for perfection is a common feeling for a lot of people. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it just depends if it’s disrupting balance in your life. Sometimes we can lose the true meaning behind our original intention because the need for perfection rears its ugly head. In this weeks video I share a story on how I’ve struggled with perfection and challenge you to take a look at how it could be holding you back from reaching your true potential.
Do you feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done on your to-do list?
This is a constant battle many people face. Sometimes it feels like there’s no point in even pursuing certain activities because you struggle to wrap your head around finding the time to do it!
Living a more balanced life isn’t impossible – it’s just a matter of taking a step back and re-evaluating what you want, and being aware of your habits. This video will help you strategize ways to make 2016 the year you take more control over what you want to get out of life!
Can you think of a time when you felt embarrassed or judged by someone? What triggered you to feel that way? Did you struggle to get over it?
If so, you’re not alone!
I know there have been many situations in my life where I wish I could have gone back in time and had a do-over. I wish I could have reacted better or said something different. The underlying issue of all this, is that I cared too much what others thought of me. I worried what they thought of my reaction, or if they thought what I said was stupid.
Now, if you’re worried what others think of you I want to help, no matter what the situation may be! This video is filled with tips that will shift your perspective so you can combat the anxiety you experience when you feel you’re being judged.